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An unbelievable true story of pain, perseverance, strength, inspiration, miracles, and love…

FOREWORD

Over a year ago, I had a revelation that sparked a miraculous transformation in my life. Even now as I write, it's hard for me to believe, but after years of debilitating cluster headaches, severe depression and a series of horrible circumstances that left me broken, given up, and without hope.  I began to see my entire life crumbling around me, but now I am healed, and my faith, hope and life have been restored. I would not have believed it possible had I not experienced it myself.

Now, I never set out to write anything. In fact, I would rather be doing just about anything else, but now I am in possession of precious knowledge that I must share. It is my intent to convey this information as if I was writing a letter to a long lost family member that I love. To whom I am just sharing my life's experience, and some great news with. It is my hope that you will receive it as such. It’s with a burning desire that I wish for you to hear and understand this news. So that it may help you navigate this life a little better.  Life can be hard to traverse, and many times can seem like a valley of darkness that is determined to crush our hopes and dreams. On the other hand, with application of this information, life can be a shining summit full of peace, joy, and abundance. Now I am not a religious man at all, and was once as far away from God as I could possibly be, but I have first hand experienced His power of love. When I was alone in the deepest depths of despair, I realized that He was with me and it was He that lifted me out of that bottomless pit with His mighty power.  So that someday my story might inspire and spark something in you. Sounds impossible, but it is true. Just read or listen and I hope to make things clear.

I want you to know that right now it doesn't matter to me what faith you claim if any at all. I'm not here to convert you, or argue about theological principles. This message is not intended for any one religion, race or demographic of people.  Instead, it is meant to speak to the potential for GOOD that already dwells inside of you.  None of us know who, or what, God actually is, we can only try to imagine. You may call Him by a different name, but I refer to Him as God, and I refer to God many times in this letter because He played a massive role in my life. When referring to God I'm referring to the ABSOLUTE force for good in the universe, I think everyone can relate to that.  I believe he is the creature of all, the one and only God in heaven, and also is the God of the Christian Bible. I am only sharing with you an honest account of my life and how I believe his power changed everything for me. So please, if you are of a different faith (or of no faith at all) just continue with an open mind.  So that you may understand and benefit from the knowledge that you have a chance to learn here today.  As I share with you, and you begin to see, I hope it helps you as it did me

  My purpose for sharing is only because I genuinely desire for your life to flourish.  I know that most of the world is starving for happiness. That people everywhere not only want but are in desperate need of this understanding.  It is an understanding of how true happiness, joy and abundance are obtained in this life, and that anyone can use these principles regardless of your faith.  I know that if you will simply apply what you learn here.  That your life will flourish.  This is a truth we all need, and it comes from that place deep down inside each one of us.  It’s a combination of ideas that we already have and know to be true.  In part, that is what makes this message so powerful, but with pieces of the puzzle spread and missing.  It's been hard for us to see a clear picture.  Therefore we’ve lacked complete understanding of these truths, and without proper understanding, application of said information yields sporadic results.  These are not new ideas, nor did they come from me. I’m not a guru, a prophet, or anything special.  I am just some guy that, probably by accident, happened to see a clearer picture.  In fact it's my desire to remain as anonymous as possible, and have changed all names because of that.  This knowledge has always been here, and I, like most people, have just failed to realize that there is even a bigger picture that we’re supposed to see.  It's like a map of unexplored possibilities that we all hope might actually be true.  Now, I’m not promising a bigger house or larger bank account, though I’m not knocking that, and it is certainly possible.  What I am inviting you to, is something much greater.  I am asking you just for a moment, to imagine that you can have true peace, happiness, hope and abundance for today, tomorrow and every day.  No matter who you are or where you are in life, good or bad, This knowledge can be used to your benefit.  I ask you now, from one person to another, please receive it and share it with those around you, so that you and those you share it with may find all the peace, joy and abundance in this life that we all so desperately desire.  And so it begins...

HOW IT ALL STARTED 

 I grew up really poor, at least by Western standards. Around the age of 6, I remember one Christmas being so excited that we had presents under a tree.  Our house was in really rough shape, and freezing cold because there was no heat.  Today I’m grateful that we even had a home, and there were presents under a tree.  Before my siblings and I started to open gifts, we discovered most of the gifts were not even for us, but were for foster children in need.  Today, I’m thankful that my poor parents were able to get us any presents at all, and that they had the foresight to try and teach us generosity. But the level of disappointment I felt in that moment is difficult to explain.  Right then I made a vow to myself that when I grew up I wouldn't be poor, and if I ever even had children they would never have to feel the disappointment of a poor Christmas.  This was the beginning of my dream.  Soon after that, my parents divorced.  This left me without a father for the majority of my youth, and was incredibly hard on me.  So my dream grew, and I swore that if I ever had children they would never feel the hurt of a broken home.

 By age 36 my dream had evolved significantly.  I had built a business from nothing that was strong enough so that I could have retired and never worked another day.  I had a wonderful family, and was a success by most people's standards.  I had a life that many people would die for, but let me be perfectly clear right now. Had it not been for God's strength and miracles in my life I would have ended up becoming one of the worst people you could imagine. This is only one of the many reasons I believe in God.  He transformed my life as nothing else ever could.  In addition I had amazing people in my life helping and working hard alongside me. Without all of those incredible people, any significant level of success would have been next to impossible. 

At the height of building my dream, I was blinded by negative emotions.  My heart was filled with hopelessness, anger, fear, and resentment.  No matter how hard I tried to be positive on the outside, inside I was beyond depressed.  I believed that not only was true joy and happiness in this world an absolute impossibility, But that the only way to escape the misery of this life was an afterlife in heaven, and that only once in heaven could you truly be happy.  I was at the point of completely giving up on this world and on this life. 

FLASHBACK FOR UNDERSTANDING

  By 16, I was the black sheep of the family.  My older brother (my hero) and my two sisters seemed to excel in everything, But I was just mad at the world.  I blamed my “traumatic” childhood for my anger, and used that as an excuse to justify my actions.  I was a highschool dropout with way too much money in my pocket from selling drugs and I was headed for disaster.  I had recently been back in contact with my father, who lived far away, whom I hadn't had any communication with whatsoever in over 5 years.  During my first visit to see him, he took me to church where someone asked me if I knew for sure that I would go to heaven when I died.  I replied, “Sure, yeah, I’m going to heaven.” I was pretty sure of it, but that question lingered in my mind.  Clearly, I wasn’t religious at all, but I’d never killed anybody or anything crazy like that.  

 I’m thankful that in my younger years my grandparents had forced us to go to church, but at the time I hated it.  I believed in God, or at least in good and evil. I’d been introduced to evil at a very young age, and I knew that if there was that kind of evil out there then an equal and opposite good must exist as well.  This idea or belief in God (A supreme being), and an after life are the most common beliefs across the entire planet.  I knew that if there was a God, and an afterlife,  that I wanted to be on the side of good, and go to Heaven.  Since I didn’t think that I was that bad of a person, I thought “yeah, I'll go to heaven,” and I went about my life.  Over the next year my mind kept returning to this question about heaven and it began to consume my thoughts. “Do I really know for sure that I’ll go to heaven?”

I realized that I didn't really know, so I asked my mom about it.  She replied, “Well, if you were to die right now and stand before God and He were to ask you, ‘Why should I let you into My kingdom?’ what would you tell him?”  “Well, I’d say I’m not that bad of a person,  I choose good over evil (most of the time). I guess I kinda deserve to go to heaven, or at the very least I don’t deserve to go to hell” I said.  “Baby” my mother said, “from what you just told me, I don’t believe God would let you into heaven.” My mind panicked.  My own mother who always loved and encouraged me, telling me God probably wouldn’t let me into heaven?  I didn’t understand, and even though she could have explained it to me.  She thought I might receive the information better if it came from my dad.  Which was surprising given the painful history.  That night I prayed to God, “Please don’t let me die before someone can show me how to get to heaven.”  Believe me when I say there are more times than I can count, or go into detail, about when I should have (and could have) died. I had a serious death wish in my early years, just wanting to escape the hurt I felt inside.  I’m not just saying this, it is nothing short of a miracle, or several miracles, that I’m even alive, or not doing real jail time by age 16.

 The next time I visited my father, he showed me God’s very simple “road map” explaining exactly how we can know for sure that we'll go to heaven when we pass, no matter what.  In fact this is the main reason I’m of the Christian faith, because it teaches that you can indefinitely secure your eternal life in heaven. That you can actually KNOW that your soul has an eternal home in heaven. Even though we cannot know what Heaven is.  Scripture tells us that we can know through faith that our souls can live forever in peace there. So I asked God to forgive my sins and save my soul, and he did. Initially, this gave me an overwhelming peace of mind. There was no fear of death or what comes after.  In fact the idea that something so amazing is waiting for you on the other side almost creates a longing for it, because this life can be so hard and full of pain and sorrow. I became like a child anxiously waiting for Christmas morning.

From that moment on, I’ve had God in my corner.  kind of like a life coach, helping me, encouraging me. The little voice in my heart and mind saying “You can do it!  You're a winner! I’ve got your back! One foot in front of the other.  Just keep moving forward.” He became a source of strength that I could call upon in times of fear, frustration, and hopelessness. Not in the sense of like a magic genie, but as a loving father that only wants the best for you.  Who you can go to for advice.  A guardian that you can draw courage from when you're scared.  Who is always looking down from above at your entire life's path.  He sees the obstacles ahead of us long before long before we can.  If you will only trust in Him to lead you, He will never lead you wrong.  We do this by simply having love at the core of our  decisions.

Even with this newfound peace of mind, I just continued my life as I had been.  A fight to claw my way out of poverty, through any means necessary.  Until the day police officers showed up at my front door.  If they had arrived an hour earlier, this story would have a different outcome, and my life would not be what it is today. This was a huge wake-up call for me.  

I called my dad to ask if I could move in with him, because I just didn't have the strength to be better in my current situation.  He was reluctant to agree because he knew the trouble I'd been in, and thought that I might get into worse trouble if I moved in with him. because he would only let me move in with him if I went back to school, and the school he thought I would have to go to was a really bad one. Luckily he was able to get me into a different school and I moved in with him. I went back to high school, and graduated on time. While working a full-time job and volunteering at the local church. That year I was able to do a pretty good job at giving up all the crap I’d been into.  Which I never could have done under my power alone. I know this to be true because I’d tried numerous times in the past and failed miserably, but now I had God's strength with me thanks to Jesus. 

Being able to overcome all that crap just helped to solidify my faith, but at the time I was also trying to be perfect. Something I could never be.  I constantly felt guilty because I still wanted to do the things of my past that I knew were wrong. Guilt is a powerful negative emotion, and if you dwell on it, it will poison your soul and your life.  God knows better than we do, that we can’t be perfect. To be human is to sin, to sin is to be human, and many times we just don't have the power within ourselves  to turn away from the temptation of sin that will inevitably lead to suffering. God doesn't want you to unnecessarily suffer, he wants you to thrive. It's not until we know the power of God's love made possible through Jesus. That we can really start to harness that power  in our lives, giving us the strength to not just turn away from sin, but to overcome it. It's with that power that we can make the  seemingly impossible possible.  I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13)

After I graduated high school, I moved back home and into my best friend Jimmy’s apartment. This guy has been my best friend since 6th grade, and is to this day is the best friend I ever had.  A “true brotha from anotha motha”, aka FAMILY.  Over the next 2-3 years I worked all the time, only averaging 2-3 hours of sleep a night. Earning money legally was a lot harder. But the dream was to still overcome poverty. 

During this time I met John, and he introduced me to a group of wealthy business owners who were willing to spend a little bit of their time mentoring me in some important principles of success. Next to my salvation, this brief mentorship changed my life's trajectory and put me on a path towards wealth more than anything ever has, but let me be clear, wealth is not about having great material possessions, rather it is having few wants (Epictetus). 

The most important lesson I learned with them was the power of thought. This is where success in all aspects of life begins. Everything begins in thought.  Eliminate negative thoughts. Encourage positive thoughts.  It's a shame though that it took me 20 years to understand how important this principle is, and to actually apply it to all aspects of my life

 I learned that true success starts with being grateful for everything you already have. Then using what you do have, including your God-given talents, to be a blessing to those around you.  Poverty, in all its forms, is the storm.  For many of us it's never ending because we fail to see past it. Albert Einstein said, “imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions' '. When you're in the storm, and all you see is darkness, it requires the imagination to see past the storm. To see the incredible harvest that will come because of the rain. Be grateful for the storm. the harder the storm the better the harvest. It’s the storm that unites us while teaching us gratitude, and gratitude is the start of happiness. It’s hard to know gratitude, if you've never been without it, and without gratitude it's next to impossible to know lasting happiness.  

This mentorship also gave me the confidence I needed to believe that I could be the one to help guild my family out of that storm of poverty, and into the harvest. I knew that I now had God's power in me, so I could accomplish anything, but this would still involve a lot of extremely hard work, and time to find my own success first.  When the plane is going down you're supposed to put your own oxygen mask on first before you try to help those around you because if you pass out then you're not helping anyone.  Today God has helped a large portion of my family out of the storm, and into the abundance of harvest. In a very small way, the hands and talents he gave me were used to help make this happen.  

Despite what many people think, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having money. Many people think that money is the root of evil, but it just magnifies what is already in a person’s heart. It is, in fact, the love of money that is the root of all evil. Unchecked material wealth, greed, and power will certainly bring out the worst in anyone.  Caring for material things more than you care about people or God will always lead to suffering. Money, and all of God’s gifts, should be used like tools, to help create blessings in this life

DON'T LET MONEY CONTROL YOU, YOU CONTROL IT 

Please don't mistake all this with the “prosperity Gospel.” That is not what this is. The reason I've focused a fair amount of this message on finances is because in most areas of the world, people living in poverty are much more likely to battle depression. Now I'm not saying that money can buy lasting happiness. Some of the richest people are also the most miserable, But have you ever seen anybody ride a jet ski with a frown on their face? If you’re not happy with a little you'll never be happy with a lot. Money can absolutely buy temporary happiness, but when it's used in this way it becomes like a highly addictive drug. Your tolerance increases and you are always left wanting more. Eventually you find yourself willing to do just about anything to get it.  I also know that when used properly, money can absolutely reduce some of the stresses of life being a blessing to those without.  Just by providing the most basic of life's necessities; food, clothing, transportation and shelter. It can be really difficult to be happy and positive when your rent is past due, your car is in the shop, you're hungry and can't even afford to buy a pack of crackers. Because now, all the money you have, has to pay the mechanic to fix your car, so you can go to a job you hate, to make a little money to go towards your back rent. Believe me I know, I've been there, and worse. 

Money can be an extremely powerful tool, but with material wealth comes a lot of responsibility. So be sure it's what you want. If you try to achieve material wealth with the wrong motives like greed, envy and vanity, you will always lose more than you gained and suffering will follow. Not only affecting you, but many times negatively affecting those around you as well. So for the following PROCEED WITH CAUTION.

It's my intention to make this entire letter as short, sweet, and as readable as possible. To help ensure that anyone can read, and understand it.  So that application is possible.  Creating financial independence can be a daunting task. It does not just happen. For most people it seems impossible, and is actually the least important part of this entire message.  For these reasons I put together a simple list of principles for anyone looking to create financial independence that when applied is guaranteed to work. This list is a compilation of many who have gone before me, and I can attest that they work.  

If you're unsure about any of these principles, their validity, how and why they work, or simply how to apply them, there is tons of free literature available that can explain all the details much better than I possibly could.  Remember I barely made it out of high school, that was the extent of my formal education. In fact, I didn't read my first book until I was almost 20 years old. I'm pretty average in just about every way.  I am not what many people would consider “rich”, but I am financially independent and it's only because of the knowledge shared later in this message that I am wealthy beyond my wildest dreams. I don't have a special wealth creating talent.  If it worked for me it can work for anyone regardless of religious faith.  I simply applied the principles listed as much as I could. I worked extremely hard, and believed that it could be achieved.  This method is like novocaine.  It works every time for anyone willing to apply it.  Though It does not work quickly.  This is not a “get rich quick” strategy.  It will take work, and sacrifice.  So don't give up, and keep pressing forward.  

First, figure out what your God-given talent or talents are.  For some people this can be a hard thing to figure out.  It is generally something you are good at or enjoy doing.  For example, I enjoyed, and was good at fixing things.  I started with jobs fixing things, and now I own a business that fixes things.  I think it was Picaso that said that “The purpose, or secret of life is to first find your gift and then spend the rest of your life giving it away or sharing it with the world.” Take a moment to give thanks for that talent, focus on how to be better at it, and figure out a way to earn a living using that talent in some way.  Or at least try to incorporate your talent in how you already earn a living. You can absolutely live your dream.  This is the foundation for it, and how it starts. 

     Second, strive to become self-employed.  Most times when working for someone else you are actually building their dreams. More often than not, self employment will take an incredible leap of faith. I’m not sure where I heard this quote, but it's not mine “If you take the first steps towards the realization of your gifts being manifested further in this life, God will help you to make it a reality”.  He wants you to grow your gift for the betterment of all.  That’s why he gave it to you.  Martin Luther King once said, “Take your first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase.  Just take the first step!” 

I put more emphasis on the first two principles because they are the foundation. The following steps can , and should be, applied as soon as you are able, regardless if you are self- employed or not. 

Strive to apply as many of the following whenever possible. The more of these principles you can apply consistently, the faster and better it works:

• Be overwhelmingly thankful for what you already have, things could be alot worse.

• Intentionally shift focus from negative to positive thoughts. Intentional gratitude.

• Use mental toughness to guard to your positive thoughts

• Have a plan, and work it with flexibility

• Consistent and persistent action, or work, towards the achievement of your dream

• Be proactive towards life, instead of being reactive (the victim) of circumstance

• Associate with successful people 

• Go the extra mile

• Share your success

• Duplicate yourself 

• Have laser guided focus on your goals 

• Use delayed gratification (good things come to those that wait)

• Find joy in the struggle and pursuit of your dream, not just in the final achievement  

• Celebrate every accomplishment made during the pursuit

• Believe that your goals and dreams can be obtained 

• Have patient expectations of your dreams 

As for patient expectations, I’ve not seen much literature on this one principle. So I'll try to explain it. Just as a farmer expects (knows) a seed will grow and yield a plant, especially when using the science of farming, you should expect your dreams to become a reality because you are following proven steps to make it so. But remember, a watched pot never boils. So remain patient with your expectations. Patience does something incredible. It helps to guard you from the emotion of disappointment, a very powerful negative emotion that will lead to doubt, disbelief, and a perceived sense of failure. Which of course could take the wind out of anybody’s sails.

These truths are like natural laws. Anyone who applies them can reap their benefits. It doesn't matter what religion or spiritual beliefs a farmer has. If he plants a seed and follows all the critical steps correctly it will yield a fruitful plant.  There are so many variables that we take for granted in this process, because we just accept them as truth and knowledge.  When you think about it, it is miraculous in itself.  One little seed, sprouting a plant with hundreds, thousands of  seeds, but eliminate just one of the variables (water, fertile ground, timing etc.) and your plant does not flourish.  These principles when all applied together for an extended period of time is not only a guaranteed way to financial independence, but will also ensure success in other aspects of life as well. 

MIRACLES DO HAPPEN

In my early 20s, by nothing short of a miracle, I met this smokin’ hot blond. I thought there was no way that she'd even talk to me.  But, she did. And we started dating.  She was incredible. Eventually, I met her six-year-old son and I thought to myself, “This is perfect for me.” I never really desired children of my own. Mainly because I didn't want to bring a new life into this messed up world.  I figured if I ever wanted a family of my own, I’d find a single mom with a son that needed a good father. I was without a father for the majority of my younger years, even though I desperately wanted and needed one.  I thank God my older brother and Grandfather were there to help fill that role. 

I wanted to be the father that I needed for someone else that was dealing with the same hurt that I had.  This was yet another miracle for me.  I hit the jackpot, I got to skip all the hard stuff with a baby and go straight to having fun with this super cool kid.  In fact, shortly after I got “saved'' that's exactly what I asked God for, when it was time for me to have my own family! Today, Kristen is my wife and the love of my life.  I lucked out on her son too. He was, and still is, the coolest, sharpest kid ever.  If you've ever seen the movie Big Daddy with Adam Sandler, he looked just like the  “I wipe my own ass kid.” He’s now an adult, and I can honestly say that he has made me a better man.  I did my very best to raise him as if he was my own blood.  

A couple years later, another miracle.  We found out that we had a baby on the way.  I'm not exaggerating when I say “miracle.” Not only did Kristen’s doctor say it would be next to impossible for her to ever conceive again because of severe endometriosis, but we were also taking additional precautionary measures not to conceive just in case. 

I know I keep saying “miracle,” but most of the miracles that happen in life we don't see at first. There’s a lot.  We may not recognise them until years down the road, if we ever recognise them at all.  My life has been full of miracles one after another, helping to keep me on this path and that's only the ones I've recognised.  There is no telling how many I’ve just failed to see.  For a long time I didn't believe in miracles, but I've seen too many to deny their truth.  As I sit here, I know that there are some people out there that wouldn’t recognise a miracle if it was staring them in the face right now.  I hope that my experience will help you to believe in them as I do now. 

With a new baby on the way, and Kristen on bed rest.  The responsibility to provide for this growing family was now mine alone, and I didn’t think my one job would be enough.  Failure in this aspect of life was just not an option for me.  So I took on a second fulltime job. \And if any provide not for his own and especially those in his own house he has denied the faith and is worse than the nonbeliever; 1st Timothy 5:8.

The night my daughter was born started with me working my 2nd job.  Kristen called me, said she was bleeding, and  that I needed to come home right away.  It took me only about 5 minutes to get home, and when I entered I was not ready for what I was about to see.  Kristen had a complication called placenta previa, and her placenta had ruptured.  She was hemorrhaging blood so bad that it was sloshing out of her shoes.  There was so much blood that it looked like a murder scene.  My heart sank fearing the worst, but they both made it virtually unscathed.  My daughter's birth was one of those undeniable miracles. 

I sat in the hospital that night replaying the sequence of my life events and considering all the miraculous things that had to happen in order for me to get to this exact point.  Some that I’ve already disclosed with you and many that I won’t. If even the slightest change at any point in my past had occurred, not only would my daughter never have been born, but I never would have had any children of my own.  As unbelievable as I know that it sounds, that night I felt as though some force was against my daughter coming into this world. But by God's grace and miracles she did.  It was then that I realized, or believed, that my daughter Cady was a true miracle.  An angel sent to me from Heaven!  

TEMPERANCE CAN REALLY SUCK

Just as steel must be tempered first before it can be made into the battle ready masterpiece that is a samurai sword.  Sometimes, God has to take us through seasons of suffering in order to turn us into the people we need to be. Temperance, to make us stronger for what comes later.  The harder the struggle, the stronger God needs us to be, and I was about to enter a major conflict, a dark night in my soul that would crush my faith, shatter my dreams, and cause me to turn my back on the God that I loved. But it has also strengthened, sharpened, and refined me as nothing ever could. 

When I was 23, I had the opportunity to become self-employed.  I had sacrificed so much of my life just to get to this point. Finally,  I thought all those years of not partying with my friends, working long hard hours and delayed gratification is going to pay off. With a huge leap of faith I quit my great paying job, and I went for it, because the feeling of regret and what if years down the road would be way worse than any possible feelings of failure in the present.  My first year in business, my personal income was only about 10k

Cady was about 8 months old at the time, and she was perfect. She was developing normally with eye contact and was responsive when you’d said her name.  She would even hold onto my fingers and hang from them. While she was holding my fingers I would say, “sit-down” and she would sit down and I’d say, “stand-up” and she would stand up. Then I'd say, “hold on” and she'd hold on and I'd lift her up. She was absolutely perfect. Like a beautiful porcelain doll. 

About a week after her one-year-old shots, everything changed.  It started with a slight fever.  Then she had a seizure, and soon she was having multiple seizures a day.  I cannot explain the helplessness and fear that overtook our lives.  Just how heart wrenching it was to watch my miracle baby girl go through that and to be totally helpless to do anything about it.

The next six months were pure hell.  Always on edge waiting and watching her in case she started seizing. We were so desperate. We had everyone we knew praying. I even tried to pray over her in case some evil presence was tormenting my child, but nothing seemed to work. Doctors couldn't tell us what was wrong, and I was willing to try just about anything.  I begged and pleaded with God to help my daughter.  My worst fear was coming true.  Now more than ever, because of Cady’s new medical problems, I had to succeed.  And I didn’t know how to handle the depression and hopelessness I was dealing with.  So I did what any logical man would do.  I completely buried myself in the new business.  While I did, Kristen, my Wonder Woman, took care of Cady. 

Did I mention I struck gold with this woman? I mean a straight up miracle mom and an absolute saint. She handled the stress and struggles with Cady and all the sleepless nights with grit, determination and love. All so I could get a little sleep, be able to work, and provide.  She spent countless hours researching, trying to find something that would help our daughter with her seizures.  She figured out that Cady was autistic before the doctors could. Eventually we found a seizure medicine that helped, but soon it became clear that Cady had stopped developing. 

What followed was years of becoming isolated.  We couldn’t take Cady into public as she would cry and scream nonstop.  No vacations, movies, dinner out.  No birthday parties at friends and family’s houses without Cady having a meltdown.  We also had to be very careful about having people over to our house.  Even a common cold for Cady would cause a month straight of meltdowns, sleepless nights and possible seizures.

 God knew how much we were struggling and one day He provided some relief.  I don’t know how it happened, but Cady watched Elmo’s World and calmed down.  It seemed to soothe her somehow.  I’m telling you, Elmo’s World was , and still is, a Godsend.  To the creators, thank you, a million times over. Thank you, it changed our lives.  Today Cady is 17, and still not a word.  As always she can't get enough of Elmo's world.  It plays 24/7 in our home on multiple screens.  She continually battles seizures, and is still in diapers, but is making some progress. 

When she was younger, she was the poop ninja.  If left alone for just 2-3 minutes she'd be out of her clothes and have poop everywhere.  Do you know what it is like to clean poop out of the TV remote buttons? I hope you never do.  Many a night I stood with bloodshot eyes in the yard at two o’clock in morning with a hose spraying poop out of clothes.  It is an incredibly intense feeling of frustration and hopelessness felt when your child frequently craps out, plays in it, and gets it on everything.  Then because it's so gross you end up puking on the floor in the process.  Go ahead. It's ok to laugh at the thought of it, I do. It's the only way I can deal. Eventually we had some special one piece outfits made that she couldn't get out of and that at least helped to contain all the poop.  Silver linings, rejoice even in the smallest of victories.

   One night, when Cady was about 5, I had the most vivid dream where Cady looked up at me with amazing eye contact and said, “I love you daddy!” When I woke from that dream, my heart shattered with an overwhelming feeling of hopelessness  because I realized that Cady would probably never talk. It was soul crushing. I prayed daily, “God, please please please help her.” Still no improvement. No development. I felt like God had deserted me. I’d trusted Him. I'd done everything I was supposed to do. I turned my life around. I went to church. Told others about salvation.  I Made an honest living and tried to use my success to be a blessing to others. Now this. This is what I get for changing my life and trying to do right? I felt like God dropped a bombshell on my life, and then turned his back, and said “there you go son, now clean it up?”  

What if something happened to me or Kristen? What would happen to Cady? My worst fear became Cady having to live in a facility, and someone hurting her. She wouldn’t understand any of it or even be able to tell anybody what was happening to her. The thought of this and her being without a loving family to take care of her was paralyzing to me. 

It was now clear that she was going to need full time care for the rest of her life, and if God didn't fix her, then I would have to carry the responsibility of building something that would provide loving care for Cady long after I was gone. This seemed like an insurmountable feat to me. I didn't believe that I was even capable of building such a thing or what that thing would even look like. But the thought of Cady being put in a facility horrified me. So I prayed more. I begged and I pleaded for God to fix her, but still nothing.  I eventually became so frustrated and angry with God that I said, “Fine, if you won’t fix her, then forget you. From here on,  I’ll do things myself.” So I put a finger in the air, and I turned my back on the God that I loved.  I swore I'd never ask him for anything ever again, and I stopped praying altogether. Understand that I still loved God, but I really disliked him. I was incredibly mad at Him, and I was extremely resentful towards Him. Even blaming Him for Cady’s problems. 

  Then, with my head down and my blinders on, I worked like a dog. All the time. many times as much as 120 hrs a week. Mostly laborious work. And because I’d told God to stick it, I felt like I was doing it all without him. I risked everything and gave everything I had, physically and emotionally, to ensure my business's success and a loving safe future for Cady.

BUT THE HITS JUST KEEP ON COMING

The next ten years seemed to fly by, until I lost a very close friend of mine.  We called him Lucky, and he was more than just a friend. He was FAMILY. I harbored a lot of guilt over his death thinking that I could have, should have, done something different.  If I had Maybe he would still be here. This threw me into deeper depression than I was already in.  Driving home one day, in a very emotional state about Lucky’s passing, I was talking to myself as if I was talking to him. Then as I drove past a local church Lucky’s favorite song came over the radio almost as if he was telling me that everything was going to be OK.

   About a year and a half later, my Wonder Woman had a heart attack and my life came to a screeching halt. All those sleepless nights and constant anxiety about Cady, finally caught up to her. They wouldn’t let me ride in the ambulance with her and on the way to the hospital, I did something I said I would never do again, and I hadn’t done in years.  I prayed to God and asked Him to save my wife. I told Him that I couldn’t do all this by myself and that I needed her.  I begged, “please do not take her.” When I got to the hospital the woman at the front desk said that the Chaplain would meet me in a particular waiting room. My heart stopped. I said, “Wait… what… Chaplain? Why? Is my wife ok?”  She said she couldn’t tell me anything, and that the Chaplain would meet me.  

On the way to meeting the chaplain, the thought of losing Kristen gave me a panic attack. I thought I was having a heart attack myself because I felt like I couldn’t breathe. My legs gave out right there in the hospital hallway, and I fell into the wall  using the handrail to keep from falling to the floor. My thoughts rushed to Cady and what would happen to her without us.  I started praying again, and eventually was able to start walking. 

I got to the waiting room, and when the Chaplain arrived he told me Kristen was OK.  A wave of relief flushed over me, and my knees got weak again. The doctor said the type of attack she had has a much higher mortality rate, and that she's lucky to be alive.  I know I've been using that word a lot, so I'm not even gonna say it.

 To this day, I still believe that Kristen’s heart attack actually saved my life. I believe I had a deadly one coming myself. I'd smoked for about 25 years, and I was a 2 pack-a-day smoker, compounded with many other variables that I wont get into. I am convinced that if I had been the one to have the heart-attack, I would not have lived through it. So now I will say it again, miracle. 

After that, Kristen and I both quit smoking, cleaned up our diet and started exercising. Thank God I’d built my business the way I had, with generosity and love, sharing my success and strengthening the people around me. Because of this strategy the business was able to run entirely without me, and I basically took the next 2 years off to be at home full time taking care of my wife and daughter.  I cannot imagine how hard my life would have been at this time if I would have had to go to work to be able to provide. 

About 30 days after the heart attack, we took Kristen to the hospital because of severe abdominal pain (appendicitis). Later that night, after the surgery. One of the internal stitches broke. She lost almost 5 units of blood and she nearly died from internal bleeding.  I could not believe how the hits just kept on coming.  

Cady’s epilepsy is getting worse.  My cluster headaches become chronic happening for months at a time, both Kristen and I having panic attacks.  Sleepless nights taking care of Cady, and now my marriage is really starting to suffer from all the stress.  If you’ve ever been in the fight of your life, this was mine. I felt like Rocky against the huge russian Ivan Drago.  I was out of my weight class, and fighting a losing battle.  I thought it's only up from here, things can't get worse.  When a right hook came out of nowhere and I went down hard.  

It started with someone very close to me, snapping at me for no good reason, and saying some pretty hateful things.  In their defense, this was a super stressful time for them as well, but I’d done more, and given more, to this one person than I had ever done for anybody.  So much so, that if I told you everything it would be hard for you to believe.  I was shocked, and dumb founded in disbelief.  Considering everything I'd done and given.  This person had to know how emotionally distressed I was, and we hadn't even had the slightest confrontation in years.  I didn't know what to say or even have the emotional energy to argue.  So I basically just took the tongue lashing and tried to forget that it happened. But that snap planted a seed of resentment in me. Even though I wanted to let it go, and forget about it, my brain just held on to it and it just played over and over in my mind. And that resentment grew. 

Over the next couple of years (the hardest and worst years of my life) this other person and I had a few other minor spats with one massive argument in between.  It seemed to me, at the time, that all my generosity and horrible circumstances were not only being taken advantage of, but were also being used against me.  Today I know, that was just another lie used by the enemy to poison my thoughts.  I know this other person loves and appreciates my family and me and only wants the best for us. But at the time, I was crushed with the feeling of betrayal because they said some things that crossed serious boundaries, and their actions seemed to line up with what they said.  Then, with one final straw, came the uppercut that almost put me down for the count. I was sick of all my generosity being taken advantage of and expected, as if they were entitled. I was done with them, and done with everything!               

Much worse though, because my heart was so full of anger and resentment from all the other negative circumstances in my life, that my marriage was really suffering as well. The divorce rate in a home with a special needs child is almost 90%, and even though I never saw divorce as an option, in my mind I began to think it was inevitable. 

I was completely lost.  The betrayal I felt from this other person combined with the idea of inevitable divorce just devastated me, and I plunged to the depths of the bottomless pit of despair.

EVIL REVEALS ITSELF

I decided that I was just going to sell everything, at the risk of destroying all of my dreams as well as devastating my family.  That's not what I wanted.  I just didn't know what else to do. That's what the evil enemy wants. The evil enemy who desires to destroy us, would love nothing more than to destroy your life and convince you that he doesn’t even exist. He was a liar in the beginning and he will continue to lie until the end.

One late night I was sitting on my couch in silence with the whole house asleep.  I was wondering how to protect everything I loved. My mariage. My family. My business. It was at this moment that I  realized, I can't. There's nothing I can do.  I'd spent my whole life fixing things.  Now my life is broken beyond repair, and I don't know how to fix it. I had done everything, was doing everything, that I knew of to be happy, but I was missing a couple crucial pieces of the puzzle. I’d been “saved” for almost 25 years.  I had everything, including salvation, but for years I was miserable beyond words.  Just because you have salvation, doesn't guarantee happiness in this life.  Have you ever met a miserable “Christian.” I have, not only have I known several, but I was one.  So right then and there I just gave up because I believed nothing else could be done.  I closed my eyes for a split second, and that was when the enemy let his guard down, and I saw him.  In my mind's eye I know I saw evil that night.  

 What I saw looked crazy, a dark, distorted, almost smokey figure in attack mode coming straight at my face. What I saw was real, and it scared the shit out of me. So much so that I jumped halfway off the couch. 

That's when I believe God gave me an inspired thought, like He was giving me advice for what to do. The thought said  “This evil wishes to destroy you, your family, all your dreams, all that you have built and all that you are going to build.  It is determined to stop you from doing any more good in this world. You and your family have great things left to accomplish. And if you can't stop focusing on everything you think is wrong, and start focusing on just loving them, this evil will tear you, and your family, apart.  Without your family, all is nothing.  This evil will succeed in destroying everything you love if you let it.  Right now, you stand at a crossroads with the choice to either unite your family, or divide and destroy everything.  All the blessings that I wish to pour onto you will be more than you'll be able to handle alone.” I thought about the story of Simon Peter fishing with his brother, when Jesus told him to cast out his nets after a night of catching nothing.  Reluctantly, he did and his nets filled to the point of breaking, and almost capsized the boat. The point is, sometimes God's blessings can be so incredible and beyond measure that it takes multiple people working together with his power to be able to receive it all. As we know from the great Spider Man, with great power comes great responsibility, but in addition to that, a house divided will fall. This entire God-inspired thought happened in a matter of a second.

 I believe, as most people do, that there is nothing more important in this world than family. I would give away everything and start again from nothing to insure my family stayed united.

So how could I save my family? I still didn’t know what to do. I was so angry and hurt. I couldn't just “give it to God'' as I'd heard people say.  When we are unable to just let those feelings go because we feel our resentment is not only justified, but is actually necessary.  It's in these times, when we feel an injustice or betrayal has been done to us, that we must ask, and expect, God to actually take those feelings from us, and he will.  I didn't know this before.  So that seed of resentment had festered and spread like a cancerous infection into the rest of my life, and it almost cost me everything. This is when I was in the darkest depths of my soul, the pit that there is no climbing out of under one's own power. That’s when God’s power of love alone gave me the strength I needed just to hold on a little bit longer.  Then with his mighty power, he lifted me out of the mire, and inspired me to write.

    At the time I thought I was just writing a simple letter explaining my feelings, but now I know that It was so that I could share my experience with you, and it turned into something unbelievable and life changing.   I’d never written anything before, and this is completely out of my realm, but I wrote all through the night. After years of me carrying negativity from external circumstances in my heart, and allowing that poison to bleed into my  marriage,  I finally was able to ease up on the death grip that I had on all those negative emotions and let God take them from me. 

When Kristen awoke, I opened my heart to her as I had never done before. I knew I needed to focus on us first before I could ever dream of working outward, and our relationship has been thriving ever since.  

 I spent the next several weeks writing. Every free minute I had I was writing. My sleepless nights now had purpose.  I even tried to stop writing cause I thought I might actually be losing my mind. But when I did, I became really anxious, lost my appetite, and couldn't sleep because my brain just wouldn't shut down. I was full of energy,  “God-power.” And the words flowed out of me like Niagra falls, and couldn't stop until I got it all out. During which time this other person's attitude seemed to somehow change for the better. Coincidence? I think not.

MY DREAM EVOLVES

My dream has grown many times over the years. Starting out as a poor and disappointed kid on Christmas morning and at its height, to build enough financial security for my family.  To ensure that Cady would never live in a facility, and that she would always have a loving family member taking care of her, long after I’m gone. Which I have accomplished. To some that may not sound like that big of a dream, but at its start seemed impossible to me. 

One night, while I was driving home, I recalled when I used to beg God to help fix Cady. When I first asked God the question, “Why Cady?” After all the miracles to bless me with her, why this, why her? The only answer I could imagine, that gave me any peace, was that she had a guaranteed ticket to heaven. What if she’d been “normal” and somehow missed out on heaven.  Then I recalled memories of the moments when I turned my back on God, and all the hardships I’d endured. I became flooded with emotions. That is when I realized that during all of the darkness when I was alone, hopeless and struggling, that God had been with me the whole time strengthening me through his power of love that dwelled within. 

I always thought I'd been able to work so hard for so long because I was strong. People would ask me how are you able to work so hard? Because I’m a frickin’ machine I’d say.  I’d turned my back on God so naturally I thought I was doing it all on my own, but it was actually his power of love that got me through.  My whole life had been a blessing full of miracles, but I was constantly focusing on the things that brought on negative emotions.  I imagined my life without the business and how much harder things could be, it was then I became exceedingly grateful for all he’d done. 

My thoughts shifted to the millions of special needs people around the world. The families who are struggling, living in fear, hopelessness, and without.  People that have things way worse than I did or could imagine. What about all the children who weren’t mine, living in group homes and facilities because their family couldn't handle the responsibility? Are they alone and without love?  Compassion washed over and out of me as it never had before.  It was intense and overwhelming. I thought, "What if I could do something to help?”  Yeah right, said that little negative voice in the back of my mind.  What could you possibly do to help, you are just some guy, and that is a global problem. You could sell everything you have and pour it all into this problem and it still would not even make a dent. Like having a conversation with myself, the optimistic side of me said, well this stuff you've been writing sounds alot like those wealth mentality type books you used to read.  Maybe you could publish your writing and use the proceeds to help. That's when it came to me, the ah-ha moment. 

I believe it was another God-inspired thought because of how strong and intense the thought was. It almost seemed loud in my head. CADY’S WORLD it yelled! A true non-profit organization that helps families, group homes, special needs facilities, with education and training for families and special needs people themselves so that they can learn as much independence as possible. It could fund, or build, new drug and alcohol rehab facilities for pregnant women to proactively help prevent birth defects. The possibilities are endless. 

In addition, at the moment of epiphany for Cady’s world, I was in the EXACT same place I was in five years prior, when Lucky's song came on the radio telling me it's going to be ok. I know how it sounds, but it almost seemed as if Lucky was trying to yell at me from the otherside because of the intensity of the thought. “THAT'S WHY!” I promise I'm not making this up. It occurred to me that all this struggle I'd endured had happened so that Cady’s World could be born out of the ashes. That’s why life has been so hard. That’s why Cady is the way she is. THATS WHY, THATS WHY, THATS WHY!!! My whole reason for being, for enduring all the fighting, scratching,  and clawing, to overcoming all the obstacles and hardships. Everything was to bring me to this exact moment so I would have this realization of building this dream. That’s why God wouldn’t take me home. That’s why God hadn’t “fixed” her because it’s bigger than me or her. THATS WHY! Now I believe more than ever that Cady being my daughter was simply meant to be

Cady’s World is to be a beacon of light to those who are in the dark and at the end of their ropes,  to always be an overwhelming force for good. We will help to unite other outreach organizations, because God made us to be stronger together. He doesn't waste our suffering but turns it into flower gardens, a masterpiece to enjoy. I used to long for the afterlife, but now it will take God himself ripping my soul from my body to get me out of this world. 

My daughter saved my life just by being born. In addition she taught me the most precious lessons in this life: patience, courage, sacrifice, faith, hope, compassion, empathy, gratitude, joy, happiness, and unconditional love. And she did it all without ever speaking a word. For this reason, she is a real life superhero, I will always be indebted to her and can only begin to repay that debt by making Cady’s world a reality. 

UNBELIEVABLY THE DREAM EVOLVES AGAIN

  I continued to write, thinking I was writing a secrets of success type book to be published. To help fund Cady’s world.  Then I realized that what's coming out of me was not coming from me and is not your standard self help - wealth mentality type book. It was more like precious knowledge that the whole world needs to hear. This message, God's message of love, is meant to inspire the potential for love that has been created in each of us just waiting to be awakened. This knowledge should be free and obtainable to everyone who desires the truth, and shame on me if I tried to profit  from it. I argued with myself over this.  There is no way this is happening.  Cady’s world is already too big of a dream for you to accomplish.  How on earth do you expect to do anything greater than that?  Like writing a letter to the whole world. But I realized that if what I was writing was God inspired for the world to see, and I wasn't just losing my mind, that he would make the way. So I continued to press forward. 

 It is God's desire for all of us, his children, to have a joyful, fruitful and abundant life here on earth. You don't have to wait for eternity and all the knowledge we need to make this happen is here.  We as a whole have just failed to see, understand, and apply it 

A SIGNIFICANT PIECE OF THE PUZZLE

We've all heard of The Golden Rule, which I believe it's in need of an update. The Golden Rule 2.0.  Do unto others as you would do for someone you love. Which does not mean just to be nice to everyone all the time. When you do good for others you are actually doing the same good for yourself, but when you do wrong towards others you are actually doing the same wrong to yourself. Some may call this Karma,  or the laws of attraction. I believe it’s called The Golden Rule because this is how you begin to create true joy and wealth in this life. 

Your success and ability to truly thrive in this life is directly related to your ability to help other people to succeed and thrive in their lives.  When you do for others, you actually do for yourself.  If you want love, trust, respect, happiness and wealth then you must first give those things away.  Whatever you give to this world, this life.  Then this life will give it right back to you. This is the natural and biblical law of sowing and reaping 

A farmer gives one kernel of corn to the ground and a whole stalk grows back in its place.  When you sow seeds of generosity, self-sacrifice, compassion and love, that's exactly what you will receive.  If done properly following specific rules just as a farmer would, then you will always get back more than you gave, but you must give first.  A farmer would not expect a harvest without first sowing seeds, but when you sow seeds of greed, anger, fear and resentment then you will most certainly reap that as well. This is a universal law as true as gravity. In  addition, a farmer that sows his seeds with love will always yield a better crop. It's proven in studies done with plants, that they grow and flourish better when shown love. If love is at the core of your decisions, a better outcome is inevitable. On the flip side, when you make decisions based on negative emotions like fear, lust, greed or jealousy, a negative outcome is certain. 

Emotions are incredibly powerful, more so than we understand. Love is especially powerful because God is love, actually God is unconditional love, and I believe that unconditional love (God) is the most powerful force in the entire universe

 God says, do for others, but when you do, do it selflessly, and do it in secret,  This is where I really missed the boat. God says that when you receive recognition for your good doing that it restricts God's blessings for you! Also do your good with joy in your heart. Don’t be a grumpy giver, and I’m not just talking about money. Blessed in the man who delights in the law of the Lord (love each other), In all he does he prospers. It’s when you do for others selflessly, in secret and with joy that God’s blessings of lasting joy begin to fill your heart.  This lasts longer than any other joy you can get in this world. Science shows that when you do a good deed, your brain releases a hormone called oxytocin, also known as the love and/or joy hormone, but every time you tell someone, or talk about your good doing, you somehow begin to lose some of the joy that God has given you. Keep your good deeds in your heart and you will hold onto more of the joy that is received. Before you know it your blessing cup is full, and starts to overflow,  but then if you allow God's blessings to stop with you instead of being generous with them.  Then the flow will slow and your cup will shrink, but if you allow God's blessings to flow through you and onto others. then your cup will grow allowing for bigger and better blessings to be received.

 If you will live by this philosophy, God will bless all your good doing beyond measure, guaranteed.  Sharing this Knowledge helps others to thrive.  Give and it shall be given unto you good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over. Luke 6:38.   When we do for others selflessly, secretly, and with joy, not only do you receive real joy, but you are sowing seeds is a specific way to help yield the best crop, and a bountiful harvest is sure to come.  Again anyone can use these natural laws and reap the benefits, regardless of your spiritual beliefs.        

Now, of course It is possible to achieve vast material wealth without God. People do it every day. You can make all the money in the world trying to fill that emptiness inside, but it will never be enough. When you try to fill that void with material things of the world and desires of the flesh it will never be enough. You will never succeed in obtaining true happiness of the soul, because you're filling that emptiness with the wrong thing. It's only when you fill that void with love, gratitude, compassion, forgiveness, generosity, and joy from being a blessing to others, that you can actually succeed and fill that void. 

This will require you taking on the responsibility of striving daily to be a better version of yourself, sacrificing who you are right now for the astounding person that you can become.  This is not being selfish just so you can have a better life, but also so that you can be a blessing to those around you.  Understand that you have to take things one day at a time, and that none of us have the ability to be the perfect version of ourselves. If that is what you strive for, then you will constantly live in failure, but anyone can strive to be a little better tomorrow than you were today.  

By doing this you can live everyday in victory, by making these small incremental positive changes, you can drastically change your life's trajectory. Even if your trajectory only changes by 1%, over a lifetime, that is enough to drastically change your destination. There is a saying I have heard, “The bettering of yourself is the foundational base for all moral progress.” This is the guaranteed path to knowledge, and the most promising way to help this world. I understand this to be, striving daily to intentionally shift your focus, to purposefully feel gratitude, regardless of your circumstances, to ensure personal growth and success, for the benefit of yourself, others, and our world.  

I found the joy and happiness that I so desperately longed for my whole life. Happiness that I didn’t believe was possible, even with salvation. This is a sustainable, renewable, inextinguishable kind of joy. If you think about it, what is at the core of most of your wants?  The highest on the list would probably be peace of mind, the feeling of safety and security. Salvation, and knowing that you’ve got God with you along the way, provides that second to none. No amount of material wealth even holds a candle. After that, I believe people just want to be happy. So much so that many of us will do just about anything to escape whatever misery haunts us. Living this way will fill your heart and life with so much happiness and joy that you won’t be able to contain it.

PIECES FINALLY COMING TOGETHER

It's all coming together for me and I’m beginning to “see”.  All these little pieces of knowledge, like puzzle pieces spread out so that the whole picture can't be seen until they’re put together. Abstract, yet so obvious. Even though it's never been explained to me this way I can't believe it took me so long to see it, and if I’ve missed  it, then I'm sure most of the world is missing it as well.  Then after a fair amount of research I couldn't find anything, a descriptive word or philosophy, to describe the picture that I could now see. The Bible was the only place that I could find that had almost all the pieces of knowledge in one place, another reason I’m a believer. But all the pieces are so spread out, and not a single word to describe it all. 

This life has most of us so busy and distracted just trying to survive, and when in survival mode, people almost instinctively turn on each other, just trying to provide security for ourselves and loved ones. When surviving we fail to realize there is a bigger picture we are meant to see. Let alone try to find all the pieces and then try to put them together to reveal the greater picture. Without Cady, I never would have known there was a picture to see.  I believe this was God's plan, but not only so that I could see, but so that I might be able to help you to connect the dots, so that you could see the picture as well. 

 It all made sense to me, but how do I help you see what I'm seeing?  I realized I needed to start with a single descriptive word. Just by giving it a word, a name, gives it power. And because of Cady’s influence, it only seemed right to name it after her. “Cadily”, or to live Cadily. It means to live your life loving others in such a way that you are willing to delay your own wants and desires in order to become a better version of yourself. Always striving to be a force for good. With love at the core of your decisions. Doing it selflessly, in secret, and with joy in your heart so that God's blessings can flow through you, and onto those around you. Helping to create actual miracles in your life and the lives of others. 

The bible says that we are not promised tomorrow, but regardless of what happens to you today the world is going to keep on spinning into the future.  Your daily actions, good or bad, will echo into that future, and into eternity. If you live a life motivated by selfish greed, you will always lose more than you gained. But if you live your life Cadily, you will always gain more than you gave. I know this is the way to achieve the happiest, most fulfilling and wealthiest life that one could possibly obtain in this world.

OUR LIMITLESS POTENTIAL

Now, just imagine for a second, the endless possibilities for our world if more people everywhere started to live Cadily with love at the core of their decisions. Whether you have a spiritual faith or not, you can live this way, reap the benefits and help make the world a better place. Our world truly would become an overwhelming force for good. I believe it's been overlooked because of its simplicity. Because of the differences in geography, faiths, beliefs and the differences in leadership, good people everywhere have been divided for way too long. 

A house divided will fall, and the longer we, the good, stay divided the more certain a fall will happen. Now more than ever the good must unite. It only sounds impossible because it's never been done before, and is only impossible if we fail to see it. For it to be possible though we must do and become something we've never been before. 

We must love and come together in truth. I believe this will only take one word, “Cadily” and better yet a symbol for that word. The Cady’s world symbol so it is recognizable across all walks of life regardless of the language you speak. A symbol to describe a way of living that will bring a joy filled and abundant life to all that live by it. A symbol that will spark the potential for love that is in all of us, and help to unite that love under truth.  

You don't have to be of any faith at all to see the truth here.  The golden rule is the most common principle across almost every religion on the planet.  Just as I said a farmer of no faith that plants seeds can still yield a crop. These are natural laws that anybody can use. It says whatsoever a man soweth. It doesn't say whatsoever a man of faith soweth. Gravity doesn't care what faith you claim when you are flying a plane or if you jump off a building. 

It's easy to see that our world is in need of soon and drastic change.  Our entire existence throughout history has been tainted with malicious evil.  Evil that wishes to steal our joy and destroy our dreams. An evil that is hungry for power and motivated by greed.  If we, as a whole, don’t do something now I believe that everything that we've suffered in the past will not hold a candle to the suffering that is to come.  Suffering that we will bring on ourselves,  If we cannot learn to come together, the future of our species is inevitably and undoubtedly doomed. But It's not all gloom and doom, there is good news. 

I'm not here to debate or judge, only to share my testimony, in hopes to help anyone that's willing to open their eyes, and their heart. Those who are willing to look a little deeper into themselves, and our own understanding. So that some connections can be made to help the picture become a little more clear. 

CHANGE IS POSSIBLE

My heart and life has undergone a miraculous change that I thought to be impossible, and if love can change my cold, dark, and poisoned heart and life.  Then just imagine what it can do for you. We are all in this life together, and together we can change our trajectory, but that change must first start from inside each of us.  I believe this change is only possible by pressing into the truth, and learning to harness that great power of love.  Then we can be transformed into a joyful, unified and abundant people. 

Utilizing our God-given gifts, our holy imagination, and working together, we can heal and restore our bodies, our lives and this world.  Together we can make this world a better place for everyone and all who come after.  When we are true to ourselves, and each other.  Then compromise, compassion, forgiveness and love all become much easier.  Then we can overcome any evil that threatens our lives and our eternity in any way.  When we are united with God’s power, we can protect the joy that is ours, while striving to share that joy with others, but we must first learn to love ourselves before we can move outward. Truly loving our family, friends, community, and eventually the world.  If enough of us can do this then instead of just accepting this world as it is, we can and will change it

THE PIECES I WAS MISSING

As I said earlier, at the height of building my dream, I was blinded with negative emotions, lost and hopeless. I had most of the pieces of the puzzle but some were missing, making it impossible for real understanding and success in finding happiness.  I had it all; salvation, a loving family, the business and the free time to be able to enjoy the money it earned. 

The first thing I was missing was focus.  Focusing on the positive things that bring on good emotions; gratitude, compassion, empathy. And the most powerful, of course, being love. All throughout scripture, love is at its core because God is love. Love is God's message to us.  Love is the most used word in the bible.  I'd been focusing my thoughts on anger, resentment and fear. And because of this I was beyond miserable.  Both positive and negative emotions are contagious and powerful, more powerful than we give them credit for.   There is a battle between good and evil going on inside each one of us every single day.  Good being thoughts of gratitude, compassion, forgiveness and love.  Evil being thoughts of inadequacy, resentment, greed, fear and hate.  Whichever side you focus on more will win. So instead of constantly thinking about all the bad things that could happen(living in fear). Shift your focus and thoughts to all the good things that should happen(live in faith) If thoughts and emotions are that powerful.  Then just imagine how powerful your words are. Death and life are in the power of the tongue (proverbs 18:21). Man is not defiled by what goes into his mouth, but rather by that which comes out of it (Matthew 15:11)All words begin with thought, so guard your thoughts.  As difficult as it may be, and for many may seem impossible, do your very best to eliminate all negative thoughts, emotions, and speech from your life.  Especially those of fear.  It's way easier to overcome fear with God in your corner, because when God is with you, there is nothing to fear

Think about it. God is love.  God gives me strength and power. So it's God's love that gives us true strength and power.  I had the power to work hard for extended periods of time because of the love I had for my daughter.  Love is the power and strength that God gave me.  Just as you’ve heard of impossible feats of strength by a mother lifting a car to free her trapped child.  That was possible because she had the power of love, GOD-POWER.  The spirit that God gave us is not a spirit of fear and weakness.  Rather a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind.    (2 timothy 1:7)

Your daily thoughts and emotions will shape your reality GUARANTEED whether you want them to, believe it or not.  Even if you tried you cannot stop it.  It would be like trying to stop gravity.  Many people are negatively shaping their own reality, and are oblivious to it. Thoughts influence emotions, emotions influence words, words influence actions, actions create habits, habits affect trajectory, and trajectory determines destination.  This is not pseudoscience, but tested and proven.  We live in a world governed by cause and effect, and just as we've been able to begin to harness gravity to our benefit.  Once you understand how powerful our thoughts and emotions are.  You can begin to use that power to positively shape your reality.  This is another one of those natural laws that does not discriminate amongst different walks of life.  Person of faith or not.  Emotions are extremely powerful and Love itself is even powerful enough to transform. We can also find this in scripture, and I personally experienced it. 

Simply by shifting my focus to love,  I went from depression beyond measure to being the happiest I'd been in my entire life, in just one single night.  Second only to the night that God saved my eternal soul,  which also was made possible through love.   Not to say that I don't have bad moments any more, but I've learned to intentionally shift my focus to love and gratitude when negative emotions rear their ugly little heads.  I do my very best to be the master of my emotions.  Purposefully filling my thoughts with positive emotion so there is no room in my heart and mind for negative ones. Because of this I rarely have bad days, usually just bad moments. The part of the brain that gives you emotion, gives both good and bad ones.  Just as darkness cannot exist  where there is light.  Bad emotions can’t exist in your brain, while good ones are present.  This is why we are told when you are feeling down to count your blessings.  When you count your blessings you are simply shifting focus, your thoughts, to the things that bring you gratitude.  Once you can understand these truths.  Then you can apply them and become a light that helps others who are lost in darkness. 

This is how you begin to combat any evil that is in your life.  You overwhelm evil with love, simply by shifting your focus.  This was the start of a massive transformation for my life. I know that if you apply this one thing “focus” to your life it can help to spark a miraculous change for you as well. I believe that gratitude is the start of happiness, generosity is the start of joy and compassion is the start of love. 

HOW TO CREATE MIRACLES- ANOTHER PIECE OF THE PUZZLE

I left this piece of the puzzle for later because of its importance and power.  For me, this was one of the final pieces, and really helped to bring things into focus,   but for many I know it will be the first, and the easiest of all to use.  It is also a great way to help shift your focus and keep it there.  Anyone and everyone can use this tool, and will yield results.  Regardless of your religion.  Some may call it meditation for manifesting.  I know it as prayer, but this isn’t your average kind of praying. I call it praying with power, or PWP for short. This is praying from a position of strength, utilizing the power of gratitude, faith, expectation, and love 

Again, anybody can do this.  I believe that a lot of people are praying from a position of fear, hopelessness and desperation. It's like the singer Jelly Roll says “I only talk to God when I need favor, and I only pray when I ain't got a prayer.” All this does is focus your thoughts on the things that gave you those negative emotions to begin with. Which inturn shapes your reality in a negative way. But the problem here is when you pray, your emotions are somehow amplified and the power for them to shape your reality becomes intensified. If you're praying while feeling negative emotion, it will cause your reality to be shaped to that negative emotion even faster. When you can learn to pray from a position of strength, faith, love, accomplishment, and expectations, it will begin to help shape your reality around those emotions instead. PWP is powerful beyond my understanding, and is able to create what we conceive as miracles. 

Let me break it down.  This is how I do it, and I try to do it every night.  Laying in bed, flat on my back ready to go to sleep.  Take 3-5 super deep breaths in through my nose. Then slowly exhale. You should feel a relaxing wave flow through you.  This is to intentionally relax yourself completely, every single muscle,  like floating on a cloud. Second, intentionally put yourself in an overwhelming state of Gratitude, happiness, joy, faith and  LOVE.  I begin to do this by repeating in my mind the mantra “thank you God for all that is and all that is to come''  This one sentence is designed to do three things: 

1. It helps to intentionally feel gratitude for everything in life

         2. This is claiming all of God's future blessing as if they’re already reality, and give             thanks for them in advance

3. This helps harness the power of faith

(If right now you just can't pray to God because you're just not there yet, I get it. I knew God, loved God and still refused to pray to him. If that's the case then just pray or talk to the potential for love that already dwells inside you, and just say thank you.)

Then by using memories, envision all of the things that bring on those positive emotions; your salvation, your children, your parents etc. putting yourself in a state of emotion to the point of happy tears. You are actually trying to cry happy tears. Even if it's just one. Then start to think of the things that if they did happen in your life, would bring on those same positive emotions. Not necessarily monetary gain. Love needs to be at the core of your desire. Some would say a new car is monetary. But if you need a new car so you can get back and forth to work and provide for your family, love is at the core of that desire.  You don't have to imagine all the steps to get there, just see the final accomplishment.  You’ll have to use your imagination for this, because you want to see these things happening as if they are memories. When you can see these future memories, you need to imagine and feel the emotions you would at the moment these future memories happened.  

The ultimate goal is to feel these positive emotions as strongly as possible, then fall asleep while holding on to those good powerful emotions. These positive and powerful emotions will resonate with you all night, and somehow almost draw your dreams closer to reality.  PWP should not feel like a chore, but it might when you first start and you may have to remind yourself to do it. Eventually it will become the highlight of your day because you are entering a powerful positive emotional state of mind.  Before you know it, you will begin to see results from your prayers. That's when your belief will skyrocket and you'll want to do it all the time.  

All this is not just wishful thinking though.  A dream or prayer that is not followed up by action is just a wish, and only creates frustration, want and doubt. There must be some action taken. Faith without works is dead. On the flip side though, if you try to achieve and succeed at anything on your work alone, then the amount of work required to make your dreams reality will be exponentially greater.  So the more time spent in PWP along with action, the less amount of action will be required to achieve that goal. But action will always be required.  Brad Formsma says that “Awareness + Action = Miracles.” That is the actual formula for miracles.  Knowledge without action is only potential and seemingly worthless. It is only when you apply this precious knowledge through action that the potential can be made reality!  The more you do this the easier it becomes, and more results will be seen. 

I strongly recommend doing a shortened version first thing in the morning. As soon as you become conscious in the morning, make your very first thought be one of gratitude.  Feel that same gratitude and appreciation I just talked about.  Try to lay in bed for at least a minute or two just to feel grateful before you get up.  For many people the snooze period with the alarm clock is perfect. Five to fifteen minutes of repeating the mantra and envisioning. It's actually great if you allow yourself to fall back asleep while envisioning and let your snooze alarm wake you up again. Envision the coming day as being the best day that it could be, and believe it will be. 

Then while you are doing your morning routine, continue the mantra in your mind but this is also a great time to speak the mantra out loud. The power of spoken word, just hearing your own voice, will solidify belief in your subconscious mind. Without some belief, the power is limited. It would be like planting a seed and then not watering it. 

Then throughout the day most people have time where their mind can kind of wonder or day dream. When you are in this time, use it to PWP. Repeat the mantra out loud if possible and in your mind, when not, while envisioning your dreams with the emotions of love and gratitude and belief at their core. Do this as often as possible. This can be done with eyes open and fully awake alert. 

This day time version could also be considered to be very similar to positive affirmations. Which are also great ways to help shift your focus and strengthen your belief, but must be followed up with some type of action towards your vision in order to see real results. To get the best results from these practices you must align your thoughts, emotions, and speech with your actions. Find some positive affirmations that you like or make up some of your own and repeat them as often as you can, aloud when possible. If your eyes are open you may start to see the tiniest of miracles that may seem to be coincidence. But as I heard somewhere that “coincidence is just God's way of staying anonymous”. You may even experience some things that are truly unbelievable. Give thanks for them and celebrate every win. 

If you are truly understanding this message, then it should be clear that when you PWP, that you should always pray for good things happening for those around you before you pray for good things for yourself. In addition, if you hold onto negative emotions because of another person or circumstances, you now give that person or circumstance power to negatively shape your reality.  If you blame people or circumstances for your situation, then you give up your power to overcome your circumstances, and you do have the power to overcome. Don't allow any person or circumstance to hold that kind of power over you. It's for this reason that during this time of PWP, that you should also pray for at least one person that you feel doesn't deserve your prayers. Someone that has done an injustice to you or a loved one, someone that you think doesn't deserve your forgiveness. 

I'm not saying that anything I've told you here today will be easy.  In fact, I think that for most people none of it will be.  I think it is way easier to sway towards a negative emotion, and true forgiveness can be especially difficult.  It was, still is, and will always be the hardest part for me. Remember I just started to see there even was a picture to see just over a year ago, and I will always be putting pieces together. You are not necessarily doing this for them, but more for yourself. When you can truly forgive others, as God has forgiven us, especially your enemy, you will set yourself free. That is when you actually see that you can be the master of your own emotions. You will realize that within yourself you have the power to forgive. This is power beyond belief, because forgiveness is the start of Unconditional Love (UL). Which is God's love, and is real power. UL is exponentially stronger than the love that we inherently know. When you can forgive, you start to have the capacity and understanding for UL. If you have the capacity for UL, then you also start to have the capacity for faith, which is just amplified belief.  

 PWP also becomes more powerful when there are multiple people praying together.  There is no doubt that all the miracles I've witnessed in my life, the reason that I'm even here today, and that you are reading this now, is because of the wonderful people in my life praying for me.  Helping to create miracles for me.  Even when it seemed I was completely lost.   I do not deserve to be here.  I don’t deserve any of this understanding, and definitely don’t deserve to be sharing this letter with you.  I should not be here. I know that without all the prayers, and the power of love, I wouldn't be.  I would have become the worst of the worst, and easily could have ended up on the other side actually working against the good.  I was less than nothing, but God's power of unconditional love transformed me, and my life into something that I don't even understand. That my story is not even my story because it would be completely different if not for the power of God's love, and all his miracles in my life.  That my story is actually just one of God's many stories that prove his existence and the power of his Love.  

If you choose, then starting today you can start learning to use the power of love to change your life and to help those around you. Eddie Pinero says “Today is the most important day of your life. It's today that connects the old you from yesterday to the limitless you of tomorrow.” Stop dwelling on yesterday's negative. Love and live in today while focusing on tomorrow's incredible possibilities.  When you PWP, I encourage you to imagine sending this message out to everyone you know, and them to everyone they know, and so on. Imagine this message spreading like wildfire, faster than covid, quicker than any internet trend.  Imagine people's hearts being softened, actually hearing, understanding, and applying all of this knowledge to their own lives, and passing it on. 

As an effect of the application of this knowledge, lives everywhere begin to change, and in turn so does our world, into one that we can be proud of. A world we all can be excited about bringing new life into. A world better for everyone and all who come after, but for any of this to work you must share this knowledge. That is action.  Share this message with a sense of urgency as if our world depends on it because it just might.  A good man who does nothing in the midst of evil, is almost as bad as the evil itself. And you must believe that it's all possible. It all starts with you taking responsibility for being a better you, mastering your emotions, and taking action towards your vision. 

NO MORE PAIN

What I'm about to tell you, I thought was almost too unbelievable to share, and may even discredit everything else I’ve shared. As hard as it may be to believe, it is true and it can happen for you.

When I started PWP, I was just learning, and trying, to meditate and manifest. I had no idea what I was doing, I'd just seen a couple videos online. Soon I realized that I was just praying, but with purpose, intention, and power.  I had been writing for a couple of months and it seemed that God had been revealing some truths to me and encouraging me to keep pressing forward. He was helping to organize the puzzle pieces, so that the picture was becoming clear. I hadn’t prayed in years. Except for when I asked God to save my wife. Looking back now, I’m ashamed, because after he answered that prayer, I never even thanked him. I was just so full of anger. There wasn’t any room left for gratitude, only resentment asking how he could let it happen in the first place. When I started meditating it was like a warm reunion to prayer. 

One night I decided to try a meditation technique that I’d heard about years ago.  Only because I don’t know what it's called, I call it  Focusing thought energy or activating.  Remember this is brand new to me and I've never had real instruction. I just picked up a few tips here and there and made it my own.  I started just as I already explained the steps for  PWP; deep  breaths, relaxing like floating, intentional feelings of overwhelming gratitude and holding on to that feeling. Then envisioning good things happening. Then I started trying to focus my thought energy. 

To explain, do you remember being a kid, and a friend or sibling putting their finger right next to your face without actually touching you?  They would say “I'm not touching you, I'm not touching you,” but you could still feel something there?  If you're not understanding then try this, tap yourself somewhere, then close your eyes and focus on the sensation of where you just tapped. It should feel like a slight tingly sensation. With very little practice, you should easily be able to sustain that sensation as long as you are willing to focus on it. Then with some more practice, and focusing you can move that sensation around and throughout your body. It may help to imagine that sensation as a ball of light.

Another way to practice; with one finger pointed at your arm, don't touch, but hold the tip of your finger a 1/4 - 1/2 inch away, watch your finger and move your finger up your arm without touching, yet feeling the sensation. Also feel the sensation trail that was left up your arm, and focus on it. I found that I could “activate” (turn on that sensation) in the palms of my hands and the bottoms of my feet very easily, and with practice, I could  move that sensation to any point on my body. Very soon I could activate my hands and feet automatically at the speed of thought even during the day, eyes wide open.  

After about a week to ten days of practicing this during my PWP time, and falling asleep while practicing, I noticed some serious arthritis pain in my hand and in my foot was gone. This is pain that I’d had for over two years.  Now it is gone.  Understand me, I was not trying to heal any pain. I was just trying to meditate.  With absolutely no idea what I was doing.  In fact it took me about a week to realize the pain was actually gone, and not just a day or two of unexplained relief.  I thought, is it possible for my prayer/meditation to take my pain away.  That little negative voice in my head  said are you hearing yourself, you sound looney tunes, but my pain is gone. 

I wanted to test it, and see if it would work on other pain.  So with an open mind, I tried it on my tennis elbow that had been plaguing me for over three years. First I tried activating my hand, because it was a lot easier than focusing my thought energy and moving that energy throughout my body to the point of the pain.  I activated my hand and just held it over the point of pain, kind of like Mr. Miyagi from Karate Kid.  Not actually touching my arm but with my hand hovering over the bad elbow.  Now I know what you're thinking, this guy really is  looney-tunes, but hear me out. This pain that blood patches and cortisone shots could not fix, went away. This did not happen immediately, maybe because I wasn’t ready to believe it yet.  I would do this method during the day, eyes open for 5-10 min intervals and it seemed that every time I did it, the pain eased up a bit. It took about a week or two of me kind of playing with it, and never once did I try this with my PWP time at night.  If I had, I'm sure it would have worked faster. 

Over the next month, on occasion the pain would start to flair up, I would do this trick and the pain would subside. The more I tried to believe the better it seemed to work, but I was still not really convinced.  Then months later my cluster headaches returned, but I wasn't ready to believe that through prayer and meditation that I could eliminate the pain myself, or maybe I was scared it wouldn’t work as it had on my other pain.  Luckily I had a combination of prescription medication and some old tricks that would help keep the headaches at bay.  After about 6 weeks of battling with them, having severe headaches and taking medications daily, I decided to try using PWP to  try to help my headaches.  First I started with deep breaths in and slowly exhaling.  On the inhale I noticed that the pain intensified slightly, but I continued anyway.  Not actually welcoming the pain but allowing myself to feel the full extent of the pain calmly.  I also noticed that on the exhale the pain would subside a little. So I gave thanks for the pain easing off, and told my mind “yes” do that.  Then continued that cycle of breathing. I then started to focus my thought energy to the area of pain.  By this time I’d gotten pretty good at moving that sensation through my body, using thought alone. It took about another month for them to go away completely.  Every single time I was willing to take the time to use this method, it took my headaches away better than the medicine ever did. I've used this method to eliminate 20 - 30  severe headaches, maybe more. Every single one I was able to do it in 20 minutes or less with no medicine.  Some even went away as fast as 2-3 minutes.  I’d learned to be able to do it, not just relaxed with eyes closed but also fully awake while even doing other things.

I had a few that were really excruciating, and they just wouldn't go away, so I started to doubt a little, but  I remembered something I heard, where you can “tell” your body what to do. Actually instruct and command the cells in your body.  Not in the way of a bossy tyrant but more like a loving Father and commander instructing his loyal soldiers who are also his children.  So I tried it, I told my body to stop the pain.  To somehow turn off those pain receptors.  I said I don't want to have to take any more medicine, so you have to figure it out.  I then imagined my cells flooding that area with the same blue and white light and almost washing the pain away. Unbelievable, I know. But 1) is a fluke, 2)is coincidence and 3) maybe you're onto something. Could this actually be happening I thought? 

In addition, I’ve also been able to use this method to help fix crippling back pain caused by bone spurs and degenerative disc in my spine, a recent elbow injury that I’m certain, had I not used this method, I would have needed surgery, and some severe abdominal pain. That I can only assume was appendicitis or gallbladder issues. 

So I’ve been able to use this healing energy to relieve pain in my body and wondered if it could be used preventively.  So I’ve recently started something new, just kinda playing with it.  After I’ve done the whole PWP process at night before sleep. I try to “activate” my whole body by starting with hands and feet, then allowing it to spread throughout. In hopes that my body will heal things that I don't even know are wrong yet,  I have no idea if there is or will be any significant benefit, I’m just trying to believe, and the whole body sensation feels awesome regardless. I tend to fall asleep right as whole body activation is achieved.  Sometimes I'm able to linger in that sensation, and see-saw between sleep and awake for a while.  Which also feels cool

I was able to use this knowledge with outstanding results.  Had someone told me this happened to them I would be skeptical.  I myself am still in somewhat of disbelief, but the results don't lie.  If I didn't believe and use this knowledge to my benefit I'd be a fool. And because I've had such amazing results I’d be ashamed of myself if I didn't share it so others can benefit from it as well.

There is a ton of research and studies proving with certainty that this phenomenon is real, true and duplicatable. A great example and a pioneer in self healing is a man named Wim Hof. This guy is superhuman, and has held many world records. Science thought him an anomaly, but he has been able to teach others how to do what he does with incredible, duplicatable results.  Now I believe he’s helping to rewrite science, and prove the power of love and belief.  Don't take my word for it, look into the research yourself and you’ll see what I’m talking about.  I've also adapted some of his methods into my daily routine and my results have gotten even better. Though our methods differ, I think the same love and belief is at their core. 

I'm certain that the power of belief and love are what makes all of this possible.  Failure to believe, means certain failure in anything, and everything you do. If you fail to believe that love is powerful enough to transform, and make the impossible possible, then for you it wont. If you fail to believe that you can master your emotions, by way of shifting your focus and thought in order to find happiness every single day of your life, then you can’t. If you fail to believe that by living Cadily it will cause God's blessings to flow into your life so heavily that you will be unable to contain them all, and automatically they begin to flow to those around you (Simon peter fishing story), then for you it wont. If you fail to believe that having love at the core of all your decisions, and the constant pursuit for self improvement, is the way that you stay on the life path with the best possible outcome, then you won't. Are you seeing the pattern here? If you fail to believe that through prayer, with the power of love and belief, that you can actually heal yourself, then you can’t. If you fail to believe that people can finally come together, united in the love we have for each other and everyone's future, so we can fix our world and the future for all, then you won't be part of the united. Many will say that this is an impossibility.  That the good in humanity will never unite because there is not enough good in the people of this world. That humanity as a whole is too far gone. That the prophecies made in the book of revelation will unfold and come to pass before we can come together in truth and love. I am not one of those many. I know that with the power of love and faith that anything is possible, and just because something may seem impossible it doesn't mean that we shouldn't try.

WE ALL HAVE THE POWER

            Every day around the world  people make themselves sick through the power of thought and suggestion. You've probably heard the story where a group of coworkers or friends play a prank on another co-worker. where they each at separate times ask the one friend if they are feeling ok because they look sick even though they look perfectly fine.  Then by lunch time that person goes home sick with real symptoms that all started through suggestion and thought. Well if we can make ourselves sick through thought, is it not possible to heal ourselves the same way.  I know that there are people everywhere that are healing themselves through the power of thought and belief that don't necessarily believe in salvation through Christ and this got me thinking.  Many people of different faiths around the world can do this. Does that mean that God hears, and even answers the prayers of people that don't believe in Jesus?  Yes, I believe he can and sometimes does.  For God so loved the world! not just the forgiven.  Think about the belief in salvation through Christ, God had to hear and answer the prayers of lost souls asking for forgiveness and salvation. So yes absolutely, I believe he can and sometimes will answer prayers for those that may not believe in Jesus. Especially if at the core of their prayer is love and belief.  

I believe everyone has the potential and capacity to feel love, compassion, forgiveness, and belief. Everyone has the power within themselves, right now, with or without belief in Jesus or eternity, to positively or negatively shape, not only their own lives, but also the lives of those around them. Possibly even influence change that shapes our world. Simply by harnessing the power of their emotions. This is not speculation but has been done throughout history countless times. Napoleon for example, with the power of belief, almost conquered the world. All things are possible to those that believe (mark 9 23-25) There is something almost magical or supernatural about belief, and every single “religion” that man has ever had, at their core, has been belief.  Belief in something, and no matter who you are you will believe in something.  Even if it's the belief in nothing.  So what better thing could you possibly believe in other than Love (God), and all the power that Love has, and the eternal life that love can give you just by belief in it!! 

 Our emotions are powerful. When we begin to understand how powerful they are, we can then purposefully and with awareness harness the power of our emotions to positively shape our lives. We become able to do the  impossible, just by harnessing the power of the emotions that everyone already has. Take your beliefs about God out of the equation, and right now we have the potential power within ourselves to make this world a literal utopia of peace and prosperity for everyone, because we have the capacity for love and belief.   When you combine those two emotions with PWP and action, you become incredibly powerful.  

This does not mean in any way that we don't need Jesus. In fact this is exactly why we need him so much. As powerful as we can be, most times we don't have the power within ourselves to combat all the negative thoughts,  or even to just love ourselves enough to believe that we are and can be better than what we see ourselves to be.  I believe that this life will give you more of exactly what you are, or at least what you believe yourself to be. If you are angry, greedy, resentful, jealous or fearful; you will get more of what makes you feel that way.   If you are loving, generous, joyful, and compassionate; then you will receive more of what makes you feel that way.  

          ARE YOU STARTING TO SEE?

Now I’m going to do my very best to help put all the pieces together. Hopefully revealing a clearer picture.  Everybody has the sin within. The sin of negative thought, even the best of us cannot control that first initial negative thought. I believe that even the first initial negative thought is sin. You may disagree, but every single sin begins with a thought.  Which may just be a seed, but at its core is still sin.  It just hasn't grown and manifested into reality.  The longer you dwell on those negative thoughts, the more they grow and develop.  Those negative thoughts are actual poison to our bodies, our souls, and our lives.  Eventually that negative thought will bear poisonous fruits in your reality.  As strong as we are, we're unable to overcome all negative thoughts because there are so many.  Sooner or later at least one will bear fruit and become a sin in reality.  This is why God's power of love in our hearts made possible through Jesus is so important

Before Christ the most powerful emotion we could comprehend is love, love for friends, love for family. Then Christ gave us the example of Unconditional love. Before that, the closest concept we had to that was love for your own child. Which has a condition. God gave Jesus to save the very people that crucified him. That is unconditional love for someone that “hates you.” A concept that without Jesus’s example mankind never could have, or would have, understood. Even with his example we have a hard time “getting it.” The bible says what greater love than this, than a man laying down his life for a friend. But what Christ did was so much greater. Which means unconditional love is so much more powerful, exponentially greater than the love that we understood. 

He also taught us not just to believe, but to have faith, which is exponentially stronger than belief.  Faith is believing without seeing. Jesus himself said it is your faith that has healed. Then he showed us how to forgive our enemies, forgiveness is the start of unconditional love. Trying to help us understand unconditional love so that we may have the capacity for it. Jesus spent his recorded lifetime in service to others, in order to give us an example of what it means to sacrifice your daily life for the benefit of others so that your own life will flourish. This is what it means to “carry your cross”.  By taking on the responsibility to be a better you, even though it's hard so that you can be of better service to others.

We copy his example by living Cadily.  Without Christ’s example, we would never understand or have the capacity for Unconditional love or faith. If you can have the ability to believe in something so unbelievable, Jesus’s sacrifice, then you have the ability to believe in yourself, in others, and in the power of love and belief. You can then believe that we are able to come together for the benefit of alI.  Some will say NO, that it is not biblical, we are not supposed to be united with other faiths, because of one verse. Be ye not unequally yoked together. For what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness, and what communion hall hath light with darkness. (2nd Corinthians 6:14) 

 A yoke is the thing that you put around a pair of horses or oxen’s necks so they can pull a carriage or plow. If you put a horse and an oxen together in one yoke it will not work well for numerous reasons. So automatically we interpret this as people of different race, religion or belief should not be united in any kind of way. To me this is just one or two steps away from discrimination and hate. If you understand God's righteousness is actually unconditional love, then the interpretation changes. 

It doesn't matter your religion if your driving force, the core of your motivation, and decision making is love. You don't have to know Jesus to know love. You may not have the capacity for unconditional love yet, but you can know love. If you have two people yoked together with the same goal, dream, or desire, and at the core of that dream is love they become exceedingly stronger. This same truth is shown in horses. One horse pulling alone can pull approximately 800 pounds. Two horses pulling together, with the same goal and motivation, feeding off each other's energy can pull over 3000 pounds. That is almost 4 times that of one pulling alone. Two or more people yoked together with the same goal, and with love as the driving force behind that goal, they will become unstoppable, and able to make the impossible possible. If you have love at the core of your desires it would be very difficult to be united (yoked) with someone who has greed and envy as the core of their desires. In fact, I would say that's next to impossible because eventually whatever union you had, will fail because a house divided will fall. 

That verse about unequally yoked is advice from your loving father trying to save his children from unnecessary suffering.  Telling you not to yoke up with someone who has negative emotions at the core of their decisions and desires. This is a common theme throughout the bible, God giving us loving advice. I hope things are starting to come into focus. 

Once you know unconditional love and faith, which I believe can only be achieved through belief in eternal life through Jesus, a couple of incredible things happen. First, it gives you the ability to feel the emotions of unconditional love and faith,  which are enhanced love and belief.  but then we also have God with us. Which I believe in some way aids in the process of harnessing the power of our emotions, or maybe increasing their power. I have no idea how, but there are stories throughout the bible where people were able to do impossible things because they had the power of god with them. If combining unconditional love and faith is powerful enough to save our eternal souls, allowing them to live forever in heaven.  Imagine what we can do on earth.  When we intentionally, and purposefully, combine Spiritual laws like Unconditional love, faith, and PWP.  With action and the natural-physical laws of sowing and reaping and living Cadily.  It's kinda like Dead Pool says, “Five mini lion bots come together to form one super bot!” 

When we can understand, believe, and apply this knowledge, we can begin to combine science (natural law), and spiritual law.  Instead of them trying to prove each other wrong, we begin to see that they actually prove each other right, and maybe are even one in the same. That's when I believe we can become superhuman, for lack of a better term.  Then using the great power of love as the key we can begin to unlock and  unravel secrets of the universe, the impossible will become possible, and we'll begin to use that power to create miracles transforming our lives and our world.

BECAUSE I LOVE YOU

I spent over a year of my life putting this letter together in order to share this good news with you.  Right now I want you to know that no matter who you are, where you've been, what you've done; your race, religion, sexual orientation, or how you identify, right now, at this moment, as I’m writing and as you’re reading or listening, Right now, please know that I love you.  We are all human, and we are all in this together.  I believe that automatically makes us family, and you know how I feel about family! If you feel like you don't have a family, my heart breaks for you.  Go out and be the best friend to others that you can possibly be, and build a family of your own. Almost immediately your FAMILY will grow, You don't have to be blood to be FAMILY.

 Up to this point, I’ve explained in detail how you can achieve financial freedom. How you can shift your focus to gratitude so that you can feel happiness every single day.  How living Cadily, literally, will fill your heart with joy and your life with God's overflowing abundance so much so that it cannot be contained, and spills onto those around you. I've explained how you can create miracles, and even how to heal pain within your own body. All that to help you have a better life here, now, and for the rest of your life. 

But when compared to eternity means absolutely nothing. Eternity is all, and without it, all it is nothing.  So, because I love you, I must also share with you how you can secure your eternity in heaven as well.  You are part of this huge family (humanity), and I love this family, the good and the bad. Because without the bad we wouldn’t understand how sweet the good is.  If I didn’t share the absolute most important part of this letter with you, then shame on me. A thousand times over, shame on me. It is the most precious of all knowledge. 

Right now, not only do I love you, but most importantly, God loves you. This is the absolute truth. So much so, that he sacrificed what was most dear to him, so that you could have eternal life. God so loved the world that he gave his only son, so that whosoever believes in him would not perish but have everlasting life (John 3:16). This is just one of God's many promises to us, and it is how we can actually overcome death, and our souls live forever. (2 Peter 3:9). Maybe you’re thinking, “I’ve heard this before, here we go again.” If you are, do you think maybe God’s trying to get your attention? I mean, you’ve read this far haven’t you? I’m sure you are busy like most people. So, hear me out. Please. God’s message of salvation has always been the same. It is love! Come to me, all you who are heavy laden, and I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28-30). 

Friend, are you ready for rest?  Jesus said I am the way, the truth, and the life.  No man comes unto the father but by me. (John 14:6).  Being a good person is not the ticket to heaven.  For by grace are you saved through faith, and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God. (Ephesians 2:8)  Tell God that you know there is no way to heaven but through Jesus. Ask Him to forgive you of your sins, and save your soul. This one simple act (asking for forgiveness) is the seed of repentance and without repentance there is no salvation. Salvation is a free gift, all you have to do is accept it. You accept it by asking for it and believing in it. You must believe! Even if right now it's only the tiniest of belief.  Failure to believe means certain failure. Believe in your heart that he can, and will, save your soul, then speak it with your mouth. Simply ask for it! Then you are saved, and eternity in heaven is yours (Romans 10:9-11). There, that’s literally it. I know it sounds too simple, or too good to be true. Yet this is the truth, God's promise, the only way to everlasting life. He will wipe away all your tears.  Sorrow and sighing will flee away. We need only to look upon Him, believe in our hearts that Jesus is the Son of God and we are saved (Isaiah 53:5; Isaiah 49:15-16; Romans 10:9-11; Hebrews 2:14; 1 Corinthians 15:55-57; Revelation 21:5).

THE FIRST PUZZLE PIECE I FOUND MAY ONE OF YOUR LAST

I secured my eternity when I was 17, today I'm over 40.  Salvation was my first piece of the puzzle. You may already have all the other pieces right now, but you still haven't secured eternity. If so, imagine what you could accomplish with the power of Unconditional Love and faith in your heart, and God in your corner.  I know I said I’m not here to “convert” and I’m not, But I know eternity is real, and like I said I love you.  How could I love you and not share this precious knowledge?  If I'm wrong, then there's nothing for you to worry about, but what if just what if I’m right?  Please don’t take a chance on your eternity no matter what the odds. For the sake of your forever, take a moment and lock in your eternity in heaven. 

If you are feeling a negative emotion right now trying to stop you from making that decision and if you've understood this letter, then that should tell you something. Ask God for his free gift of salvation. Believe that God (unconditional love), the absolute force for good in the universe, is powerful enough to transform you into something greater than you believe you can be. And more importantly, give you eternal life. Follow the simple steps in the previous paragraph, and speak to him from your heart. 

Go ahead, I'll wait. 

It's with all my heart that I hope you just found the certainty of eternity that is yours. For whatever reason, if you made it this far and still have not secured your salvation,  I don't judge. I know that God still loves you, and so do I. 

For anyone that wants to change their trajectory, become a positive change in, and for our world, but are just not sure where to start, PWP is the first step. Every journey starts with the first step and the first one is usually the hardest one. Take that first step with love and faith as your driving force, then God will lay the path and show you where to start taking more action. Then try putting this knowledge to practical use in your life. You will witness positive change, see that all you learned here is true, and know that the greatest things are yet to come.

If you have been inspired here, want to be a driving force for good, and aspire for greatness, please secure your eternity in heaven, and be overwhelmingly grateful for all. Then with the power of Unconditional Love in your heart. Helping to ensure that love is at the core of your decisions, apply the principles for financial independence to your life.  Live Cadily, because you don't want God's blessing to stop with you, they should flow through you and onto those around you. As Jim Kwik says “Self care is not selfish, because you can't pour from an empty cup.”  Then PWP, followed up with action, patient expectations, and faith.  Applying it all consistently and indefinitely.  To the few who will actually do all that.  You will achieve Greatness, and you will help guide humanity into the unbelievable future that is ours. 

My desire is that my life’s experiences might help you to believe in this message of love. How living Cadily will cause your life to flourish, and help make this world a better place. I hope that this message will be the catalyst and inspiration that you need to help bring out the potential for love that is in you.  May it be a spark of truth that ignites a fire to change your life, and the lives of those around you. Like a treasure map, I pray that you will be able to follow it and learn to harness the power of love, and faith in your life as I have in mine. 

“THANK YOU GOD FOR ALL THAT IS AND ALL THAT IS TO COME!”

MY WORDS

These principals I’ve learned from Scripture, other successful people, and my innocent daughter, who has never spoken a word. She helped me to piece together the puzzle, so that anyone who wants to, can see and together we will change everything.  As for Cady’s World, the only way is love.

Lastly, I want to thank my daughter Cady, for coming down from heaven as an Autistic child. I know you may never be able to read this, but I have great hopes that the picture you helped me to see reaches others and they pass it on. Thank you for choosing Kristen and me. Thank you for your patience. I’m sorry it took me so long to hear you. I love you more than I can possibly put into words and even though you can’t talk, in my mind I've heard you say it thousands of times.  I LOVE YOU!!!